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The Barbarian and the Gay
STORY: 1998-1999—In 1998, my investment bank offered me a position heading up a group in its Tokyo office. I was reluctant to go, but it...
Jun 9, 20185 min read


No Queens
STORY: My first boyfriend, Jim Fragale, was turning 40 and I was 27. It was 1979. He’d moved to NYC from West Virginia in 1963 at 24....
Jun 8, 20181 min read


We Are Family
STORY: 1979-2017: My first relationship with another man began when I met Jim at the YMCA in 1979. I was 26, about to leave a job I...
Mar 11, 20184 min read
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