World AIDS Day, 1994

STORY: In 1994, I was wheatpasting posters around New York City late at night (when the police tended to be in doughnut shops, not on the...

Apr 3, 20181 min read

Jeanne Moreau

STORY: Early 1980s—I lived in Washington, D.C. and worked on Capitol Hill. In those days, a presentable young gay man who owned his own...

Apr 3, 20181 min read

Family

STORY: I’m thinking about the seasons of our lives this morning, as I lie in bed with my husband, Chuck, in our home in Chandler,...

Apr 3, 20182 min read

On the Pioneer

STORY: “Pioneer,” an Amtrak train that once ran from Chicago, through Wyoming, to Portland, Oregon. I’ve met and lusted over 100s and...

Apr 3, 20182 min read

A Memory from 1985

STORY: “Hiya Edwood.” “Just a minute.” I hold the kitchen phone up in the air and call to my mother. “Ma, it’s for you.” “Who is it?” I...

Apr 2, 201813 min read

Dear Ellen

STORY: Ms. Matlock: This week we are going to learn how to write a well-structured letter. Me (to myself): Cool Ms. Matlock: Each of you...

Apr 2, 20183 min read

Beauty

COMMUNITY: Many of us have at least one photo that when displayed elicits the response from others, “You used to be hot.” The gay male...

Apr 2, 20181 min read

Sailing the Mediterranean

STORIES: May 1994, the ex, my BFF Doug, and myself jetted off on a 2-week adventure in Turkey. We began in the port of Marmaris, where we...

Apr 2, 20181 min read

No Gay People in Cambodia

STORY: 2006– I’ve had the great privilege to work from age 26 to 70 educating people around the world with the truth on lesbian, gay,...

Apr 2, 20182 min read

Willie

I’ve described how, in 1976, I met Willie Wilson, who introduced me to the passionate joy of infatuation between men. While visiting DC...

Mar 27, 20182 min read

My Birthday Dance

STORY: I grew up in Albany GA, which is nothing like Atlanta. I may not look excited in this picture, but I will never forget this...

Mar 24, 20181 min read

Summer in the Pines 1981

STORY: 1981 – In this photo, I’m with my housemates and my weekend date from Boston (John Shade, with our arms around each other) on the...

Mar 12, 20181 min read

We Are Family

STORY: 1979-2017: My first relationship with another man began when I met Jim at the YMCA in 1979. I was 26, about to leave a job I...

Mar 11, 20184 min read

Hidden Costs

STORY: 1981-2017: If I had to select one photo from my archives which personifies the devastation wrought upon my generation by the AIDS...

Mar 11, 20182 min read

Eighties Envy

STORY: May 1983: From the moment the discovery of a “gay cancer” (GRID, or “gay-related immune deficiency”, later renamed AIDS) was...

Mar 11, 20182 min read

Role Reversal in Rome

STORY: May 1985—Have you ever had a business relationship morph into a romantic one? Or, a friendship turn romantic? What happened when...

Mar 11, 20181 min read

Muscle on the Rocks

STORY: Gay Games III in Vancouver (British Columbia) in August 1990 was a transformative experience for me and many others: it was the...

Mar 11, 20181 min read

(Mine)shafted

STORY: October 1979: Shortly after I returned to Manhattan from my cross-country road trip spent trying to find my “gay self,” Bo, the...

Mar 11, 20183 min read

Tuxedo Rebellion

February 1992 – I went on consecutive RSVP Caribbean winter cruises in 1991 and 1992. The cruise line used to require its mostly male...

Mar 11, 20181 min read

Remembering Luis

STORY: Luis Eduardo Quiros (1948-1986) was invited to a weekend at the Tuna Walk house of Jacques Haran, the chairman of my employer,...

Apr 3, 20172 min read