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Full Circle
STORY: 1976 – When I first moved to NYC in 1976, as far as the world knew, I was a 24-year-old straight guy, former college jock, and...
Jun 8, 20183 min read
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STORY: Without a doubt, New York City is a veritable cornucopia of hot men. However, sanity and stability are for sure not qualities that...
Jun 8, 20182 min read
The First Happy Gay Film
STORY: 1974—We’ve just bought tickets to see “Love Simon,” the new, gay coming of age film that we expect to make us happy. The first...
Jun 8, 20182 min read
Group Travel, Rio—1990s style
STORY: 1989 to mid-1990s—My husband, Ron Oyer, had a travel business in the 1990s that catered to gay men, geographically mostly from...
Jun 8, 20181 min read
The Bodyguard
STORY:1985 – During a solo vacation in Ibiza in September 1985, I met a muscular hunk, traveling with his younger boyfriend, who...
Jun 8, 20181 min read
My First Night at the Saint
STORY: I moved to New York City in the fall of 1980 and quickly landed a job at a top corporate design agency, making $15,000 a year. It...
Jun 8, 20184 min read
In Search of (Gay) America
STORY: In 1979 and with no gay life to speak of, I scrimped to save a few thousand dollars, negotiated my departure from my firm, sublet...
Jun 8, 20183 min read
Shot Boy
STORY: 2012-2013: For better or worse, bars are the center of gravity in the gay community. We make our friends, find our lovers, express...
Jun 8, 20183 min read
Greek Fraternity or Gay Fraternity?
STORY: June 25, 1978: In December 2017, I reconnected with a younger fraternity brother I hadn’t seen since Gay Pride in NYC 39 years...
Jun 8, 20182 min read
A Brazilian New Year in Hong Kong
STORY: 1999 – For New Year’s Eve 1998, I found myself in Hong Kong, visiting my best friend from grad school and his family. I stayed...
Jun 8, 20182 min read
My Perfect Life
1977: I was living the perfect life. I was attending a small state university in northern California. Although I was attracted to men, I...
Jun 7, 20185 min read
Speaking in Code
STORY: My second buddy was a florist who lived at home. I’d bring him to Ray’s and my house where we’d dangle our feet in the pool, and...
Jun 7, 20181 min read
Luis
NOTE: Viktor Carrasquero, a young Venezuelan emigre in Hong Kong, authorized us to share the following story from his early life. Back in...
Jun 7, 20182 min read
Project Runway: Water Island Edition
STORY: Circa 1997: While Cherry Grove and The Pines were the centers of gay life on Fire Island, another small enclave of gay culture...
Jun 7, 20181 min read
Bermuda: April 2018
STORY: Earlier this month, I had the pleasure of going onboard the cruise ship Carnival Pride for a week-long family vacation to Bermuda,...
Jun 6, 20182 min read
Gayborhoods – Sutton Place
STORY: In the early 1980s, Sutton Place on Manhattan’s East 50s and 60s were very gay, especially after work when the bars would fill...
May 24, 20184 min read
Richard
STORY: Richie and I met as teenagers in the gay clubs in Boston and both moved to NYC in 1979. We used to go to Studio 54 and Mudd Club...
May 24, 20181 min read
Brotherly Love
STORY: 1976-1979—I moved to NYC for a position in a bank training program in October 1976 and almost immediately befriended another...
May 19, 20184 min read
Hong Kong 1984
STORY: Homosexuality was illegal in Hong Kong back then, but for the ex-pat community it was mostly overlooked by the authorities. Gay...
May 19, 20182 min read
Coming Out, 1982
STORY: During my first few years in NYC, I only had one foot out of the closet. I had my gay friends, and I had my straight friends and...
May 19, 20182 min read
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