PODCAST—EPISODE 16: Mike talks with old friend, Dave Kopay, who in 1975, was the first prominent athlete to come out and the first male athlete in a major professional league to do so, when he publicly disclosed he was gay. A hero to many LGBTQers for his courage, he paid a permanent price in being shut out of coaching jobs in colleges and at the pro level.). To listen to the full podcast, click here. #mikebalaban
BAMMER47: I recently was sent an article on the concept of matelotage, a common rite among pirates and some other sailors on the open seas in the 1600s and 1700s. Have you heard of this practice? I know I hadn’t. At that time, pirates often engaged in this form of partnership, a same-sex civil union among sailors, whereby two partners would form an economic pairing and agree to share their incomes and inherit each other’s property in the case of death. They also pledged to p
BAMMER47: How do you expect to recommence hooking up, or at least having sex with someone outside your COVID pod, once conditions permit? When do you anticipate that will be possible? How do you expect to recommence hooking up, or at least having sex with someone outside your COVID pod, once conditions permit? When do you anticipate that will be possible? Of course, some gay men have been meeting new bed partners throughout the COVID pandemic, tossing caution to the wind
BAMMER47 (1976): Have ever felt like you missed a golden opportunity for a relationship with the person you were meant to be with? The idea of “the one that got away” is a trope in our cultural lore. But, how often does it happen in real life? I’ve been fortunate never to experience such a near miss. But, I can only imagine the feeling of crushing disappointment that might accompany nearly consummating a relationship you feel was meant to be, then watching it vanish forever.
STORY: 1981—After my intense three-month affair with Bill Masi, a successful male model, had run its course in early 1981, we became “friends with benefits” and then morphed into just being friends. During that middle phase, he also became friends with a guy from New Jersey, a teacher also named Bill, who was married to a woman and had a teenage daughter. Bill #2’s wife knew about his attraction to men and gave him ample room to maneuver. And, maneuver he did. He kept a rooft
PODCAST—EPISODE 14: Cliff Morrison talks about forming the first AIDS ward in San Francisco General Hospital in 1983, as well as, his recent involvement in the making of “5B”, an award-winning documentary about that experience (now available on Amazon). To listen to the full podcast, click here. #MikeBalaban
BAMMER47: In the LGBTQ world, until recently (and depending on where you reside, even now), we lacked the advantage of support from our families and the rest of society, the institutional imprimatur of marriage wasn’t available to us, and we had to forge ahead in our relationships, discovering our path on our own. How did many of us navigate such unfriendly terrain and still maintain fairly successful long-term partnerships? I have a substantial number of friends in gay and