Jolly Roger!
BAMMER47: I recently was sent an article on the concept of matelotage, a common rite among pirates and some other sailors on the open...
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Apr 6, 20212 min read
Re-introducing Hook-ups Post-COVID
BAMMER47: How do you expect to recommence hooking up, or at least having sex with someone outside your COVID pod, once conditions permit?...
Apr 6, 20212 min read
The One that Got Away?
BAMMER47 (1976): Have ever felt like you missed a golden opportunity for a relationship with the person you were meant to be with? The...
Mar 17, 20211 min read
What's the Secret to a Long, Happy Relationship
BAMMER47: In the LGBTQ world, until recently (and depending on where you reside, even now), we lacked the advantage of support from our...
Mar 13, 20212 min read
Porn Star Turned Therapist
BAMMER47: When I met Stu Fenton at a Fire Island pool party in August 1999, he didn’t divulge much about his life. But, when we...
Mar 13, 20212 min read
Poppers
BAMMER47: Poppers! Some gay men love their stimulating properties for sex and dancing, while others can’t stand that they may leave you...
Mar 13, 20212 min read
Uniformity
BAMMER47: Does a good-looking man in a uniform especially turn you on? Uniforms have been a fetish for gay men for generations. Whether...
Mar 13, 20211 min read
Is Screwing an Essential Part of Gay Sex?
BAMMER47: Do you feel physical play between two gay men that does NOT include anal penetration should qualify as sex? In a previous post,...
Mar 13, 20213 min read
Boston After Dark in 1975: My First Time
BAMMER47: The first time I had sex with a guy happened after, with much trepidation, I answered a personal ad in the After Dark section...
Mar 13, 20212 min read
Fetishizing the Belongings of an Unrequited Crush
BAMMER47: Have you ever had a crush on a guy you couldn’t reveal, so you fetishized a belonging of his as a way of feeling closer to him?...
Mar 13, 20212 min read
The History of Organized Male Nude Swimming in the U.S.
BAMMER47: Did you know that, until the 1960s, it was a widespread requirement that boys who swam in segregated groups in public school...
Mar 13, 20212 min read
How Meaningful Are Straight Friends in your LGBTQ life?
BAMMER47: From everything you hear and read, younger LGBTQers today are much more inclusive and non-discriminatory, as a rule, than the...
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