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Is Screwing an Essential Part of Gay Sex?


A patriotically-adorned behind that I captured during a daily tea dance at the Boatslip in Provincetown, Mass over the July 4th weekend in 2018

BAMMER47: Do you feel physical play between two gay men that does NOT include anal penetration should qualify as sex?


In a previous post, I detected an apparent generational difference in how gay men view sex. A number of younger guys said they feel that you haven’t actually engaged in sex UNLESS f__king is involved. Older gay men appeared not to support that view and regarded a much broader list of physical activities as part of the sex act.


For my part, I think of sexual activity as anything that stirs my nether regions and can include activities as basic as deep and extensive kissing, fellatio/blow jobs, hand jobs, and rimming. It can also encompass fetish-inspired activities such as fisting and sounds. Basically, anything that gets one excited and might lead to orgasm should be considered sexual in my book.:)


I’m curious how widespread this generational divide is and what might be the reasons for it. Please share your views on this topic with us in the comment section.


One idea shared by a viewer was that the stigma of being a bottom, the passive partner in male-male anal sex, may have gradually diminished over time. If so, younger gay men may have fewer hang-ups around getting f___ked, which may contribute to the feeling that it’s an essential element of meaningful sex play.


Another possible factor in the perception by some younger gay men that sex without actual penetration doesn’t count is the ubiquitous presence of porn in our lives and the central role that f___king plays in videos and written stories about sex between men.


What do you think?



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