Gay Mountaineer Outed on TV in Islamic Kyrgyzstan (Part 1)

PODCAST—EPISODE 25: Growing up in the central Asian nation of Kyrgystan, Dastan Kasmamytov had no idea he'd ever become an LGBTQ activist....

Mar 9, 20221 min read

Stirrings

Each of us can recall our earliest awareness of affectional and then sexual attraction to others. Gay men often have a clearer...

Jan 24, 20221 min read

Andy Tobias: Noted LGBTQ author and former Democratic Party Treasurer

PODCAST-- EPISODE 24: Andy Tobias' journey from being the "Best Little Boy in the World" (the title of the best-selling coming out memoir...

Jan 11, 20221 min read

Khalleed Ahmed: The Journey of a Gay Somalian Refugee, Part 2

PODCAST—EPISODE 21: Khalleed Ahmed and his family fled civil war in Somalia, spent eight years in Kenyan refugee camps, and finally were...

Jul 14, 20211 min read

David Mixner: Longtime Civil Rights, Anti-war, and LGBTQ Rights Activist

PODCAST—EPISODE 20: David Mixner has been an author, political strategist, and civil rights activist for more than a half-century. He was...

Jun 23, 20211 min read

Khalleed Ahmed: The Journey of a Gay Somalian Refugee, Part 1

PODCAST—EPISODE 19: Khalleed Ahmed and his family fled civil war in Somalia, spent eight years in Kenyan refugee camps, and finally were...

Jun 16, 20211 min read

Jolly Roger!

BAMMER47: I recently was sent an article on the concept of matelotage, a common rite among pirates and some other sailors on the open...

Apr 6, 20212 min read

Re-introducing Hook-ups Post-COVID

BAMMER47: How do you expect to recommence hooking up, or at least having sex with someone outside your COVID pod, once conditions permit?...

Apr 6, 20212 min read

The One that Got Away?

BAMMER47 (1976): Have ever felt like you missed a golden opportunity for a relationship with the person you were meant to be with? The...

Apr 6, 20212 min read

A Typical Manhattan Evening

STORY: 1981—After my intense three-month affair with Bill Masi, a successful male model, had run its course in early 1981, we became...

Apr 2, 20212 min read

BAMMER and Me: Joel Tucker, The Backstreet Cafe Shooting

PODCAST—EPISODE 15: Mike interviews Joel Tucker twenty years later: one of six survivors of the horrendous Backstreet Cafe shooting in...

Apr 1, 20211 min read

Group Travel, Mykonos - 1990 Style

STORY: 1989 to mid-1990s—My husband, Ron Oyer, had a travel business in the 1990s that catered to gay men, geographically mostly from...

Mar 30, 20211 min read

BAMMER and Me: Cliff Morrison: The World's First AIDS Ward (Pt. 2)

PODCAST—EPISODE 14: Cliff Morrison talks about forming the first AIDS ward in San Francisco General Hospital in 1983, as well as, his...

Mar 26, 20211 min read

What's the Secret to a Long, Happy Relationship

BAMMER47: In the LGBTQ world, until recently (and depending on where you reside, even now), we lacked the advantage of support from our...

Mar 17, 20211 min read

Porn Star Turned Therapist

BAMMER47: When I met Stu Fenton at a Fire Island pool party in August 1999, he didn’t divulge much about his life. But, when we...

Mar 14, 20212 min read

Poppers

BAMMER47: Poppers! Some gay men love their stimulating properties for sex and dancing, while others can’t stand that they may leave you...

Mar 13, 20212 min read

Uniformity

BAMMER47: Does a good-looking man in a uniform especially turn you on? Uniforms have been a fetish for gay men for generations. Whether...

Mar 13, 20212 min read

Is Screwing an Essential Part of Gay Sex?

BAMMER47: Do you feel physical play between two gay men that does NOT include anal penetration should qualify as sex? In a previous post,...

Mar 13, 20211 min read

Boston After Dark in 1975: My First Time

BAMMER47: The first time I had sex with a guy happened after, with much trepidation, I answered a personal ad in the After Dark section...

Mar 13, 20213 min read

Fetishizing the Belongings of an Unrequited Crush

BAMMER47: Have you ever had a crush on a guy you couldn’t reveal, so you fetishized a belonging of his as a way of feeling closer to him?...

Mar 13, 20212 min read