Gay Mountaineer Outed on TV in Islamic Kyrgyzstan (Part 1)
PODCAST—EPISODE 25: Growing up in the central Asian nation of Kyrgystan, Dastan Kasmamytov had no idea he'd ever become an LGBTQ activist....
- Jan 24
- 1 min
Stirrings
Each of us can recall our earliest awareness of affectional and then sexual attraction to others. Gay men often have a clearer...
- Jan 11
- 1 min
Andy Tobias: Noted LGBTQ author and former Democratic Party Treasurer
PODCAST-- EPISODE 24: Andy Tobias' journey from being the "Best Little Boy in the World" (the title of the best-selling coming out memoir...
- Jul 14, 2021
- 1 min
Khalleed Ahmed: The Journey of a Gay Somalian Refugee, Part 2
PODCAST—EPISODE 21: Khalleed Ahmed and his family fled civil war in Somalia, spent eight years in Kenyan refugee camps, and finally were...
- Jun 23, 2021
- 1 min
David Mixner: Longtime Civil Rights, Anti-war, and LGBTQ Rights Activist
PODCAST—EPISODE 20: David Mixner has been an author, political strategist, and civil rights activist for more than a half-century. He was...
- Jun 16, 2021
- 1 min
Khalleed Ahmed: The Journey of a Gay Somalian Refugee, Part 1
PODCAST—EPISODE 19: Khalleed Ahmed and his family fled civil war in Somalia, spent eight years in Kenyan refugee camps, and finally were...
- Apr 6, 2021
- 2 min
Jolly Roger!
BAMMER47: I recently was sent an article on the concept of matelotage, a common rite among pirates and some other sailors on the open...
- Apr 6, 2021
- 2 min
Re-introducing Hook-ups Post-COVID
BAMMER47: How do you expect to recommence hooking up, or at least having sex with someone outside your COVID pod, once conditions permit?...
- Apr 6, 2021
- 2 min
The One that Got Away?
BAMMER47 (1976): Have ever felt like you missed a golden opportunity for a relationship with the person you were meant to be with? The...
- Apr 2, 2021
- 2 min
A Typical Manhattan Evening
STORY: 1981—After my intense three-month affair with Bill Masi, a successful male model, had run its course in early 1981, we became...
- Apr 1, 2021
- 1 min
BAMMER and Me: Joel Tucker, The Backstreet Cafe Shooting
PODCAST—EPISODE 15: Mike interviews Joel Tucker twenty years later: one of six survivors of the horrendous Backstreet Cafe shooting in...
- Mar 29, 2021
- 1 min
Group Travel, Mykonos - 1990 Style
STORY: 1989 to mid-1990s—My husband, Ron Oyer, had a travel business in the 1990s that catered to gay men, geographically mostly from...
- Mar 26, 2021
- 1 min
BAMMER and Me: Cliff Morrison: The World's First AIDS Ward (Pt. 2)
PODCAST—EPISODE 14: Cliff Morrison talks about forming the first AIDS ward in San Francisco General Hospital in 1983, as well as, his...
- Mar 17, 2021
- 1 min
What's the Secret to a Long, Happy Relationship
BAMMER47: In the LGBTQ world, until recently (and depending on where you reside, even now), we lacked the advantage of support from our...
- Mar 13, 2021
- 2 min
Porn Star Turned Therapist
BAMMER47: When I met Stu Fenton at a Fire Island pool party in August 1999, he didn’t divulge much about his life. But, when we...
- Mar 13, 2021
- 2 min
Poppers
BAMMER47: Poppers! Some gay men love their stimulating properties for sex and dancing, while others can’t stand that they may leave you...
- Mar 13, 2021
- 2 min
Uniformity
BAMMER47: Does a good-looking man in a uniform especially turn you on? Uniforms have been a fetish for gay men for generations. Whether...
- Mar 13, 2021
- 1 min
Is Screwing an Essential Part of Gay Sex?
BAMMER47: Do you feel physical play between two gay men that does NOT include anal penetration should qualify as sex? In a previous post,...
- Mar 13, 2021
- 3 min
Boston After Dark in 1975: My First Time
BAMMER47: The first time I had sex with a guy happened after, with much trepidation, I answered a personal ad in the After Dark section...
- Mar 13, 2021
- 2 min
Fetishizing the Belongings of an Unrequited Crush
BAMMER47: Have you ever had a crush on a guy you couldn’t reveal, so you fetishized a belonging of his as a way of feeling closer to him?...