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Apr 1, 20211 min read
BAMMER and Me: Joel Tucker, The Backstreet Cafe Shooting
PODCAST—EPISODE 15: Mike interviews Joel Tucker twenty years later: one of six survivors of the horrendous Backstreet Cafe shooting in...
Apr 1, 20211 min read
A Story of the Transgender in Traditional Hawaiian Culture
COMMUNITY: Very rarely do we find stories that provide insight into the roles of non-binary people in traditional societies. The mahu,...
Mar 29, 20211 min read
Group Travel, Mykonos - 1990 Style
STORY: 1989 to mid-1990s—My husband, Ron Oyer, had a travel business in the 1990s that catered to gay men, geographically mostly from...
Mar 26, 20211 min read
BAMMER and Me: Cliff Morrison: The World's First AIDS Ward (Pt. 2)
PODCAST—EPISODE 14: Cliff Morrison talks about forming the first AIDS ward in San Francisco General Hospital in 1983, as well as, his...
Mar 17, 20211 min read
What's the Secret to a Long, Happy Relationship
BAMMER47: In the LGBTQ world, until recently (and depending on where you reside, even now), we lacked the advantage of support from our...
Mar 13, 20212 min read
Porn Star Turned Therapist
BAMMER47: When I met Stu Fenton at a Fire Island pool party in August 1999, he didn’t divulge much about his life. But, when we...
Mar 13, 20212 min read
Poppers
BAMMER47: Poppers! Some gay men love their stimulating properties for sex and dancing, while others can’t stand that they may leave you...
Mar 13, 20212 min read
Uniformity
BAMMER47: Does a good-looking man in a uniform especially turn you on? Uniforms have been a fetish for gay men for generations. Whether...
Mar 13, 20211 min read
Is Screwing an Essential Part of Gay Sex?
BAMMER47: Do you feel physical play between two gay men that does NOT include anal penetration should qualify as sex? In a previous post,...
Mar 13, 20213 min read
Boston After Dark in 1975: My First Time
BAMMER47: The first time I had sex with a guy happened after, with much trepidation, I answered a personal ad in the After Dark section...
Mar 13, 20212 min read
Fetishizing the Belongings of an Unrequited Crush
BAMMER47: Have you ever had a crush on a guy you couldn’t reveal, so you fetishized a belonging of his as a way of feeling closer to him?...
Mar 13, 20212 min read
The History of Organized Male Nude Swimming in the U.S.
BAMMER47: Did you know that, until the 1960s, it was a widespread requirement that boys who swam in segregated groups in public school...
Mar 13, 20212 min read
How Meaningful Are Straight Friends in your LGBTQ life?
BAMMER47: From everything you hear and read, younger LGBTQers today are much more inclusive and non-discriminatory, as a rule, than the...
Mar 12, 20214 min read
Dad and Me
STORY: I grew up in a close-knit and loving family of four in Minnesota. As a child, I was always close to my mom but didn’t really know...
Feb 24, 20212 min read
My Nephew Callum
STORY: Callum is the youngest of my brother’s three sons. On the surface, he was a shy kid, but, hidden behind that facade was a bold boy...
Jan 26, 20215 min read
Madonna Didn’t Call
STORY" I grew up in South Africa. In 1994, we were promised a new constitution with protected rights and social acceptance for gays. I...
Jan 1, 20218 min read
How Did I End Up Here?
STORY: “How did I get to this point?” I kept asking myself nervously and guiltily, during the two-hour train ride. I’m a father,...
Dec 20, 20202 min read
The 1993 March on Washington
STORY: I attended the March on Washington for Lesbian, Gay, and Bi Equal Rights and Liberation on April 25, 1993, with a group of...
Dec 20, 20206 min read
What I Learned
STORY: It was one of those days I will never forget. It was the Spring of 1999, probably in late March, just after my birthday. It was on...
Dec 9, 20203 min read
The Lover
STORY: When I first heard the Turkish word sevici, I had no idea what it meant. Though literally translated it means lover, it seems the...
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